Yes I Can!

I dream of being all kinds of things. I dream of being a successful equine assisted psychotherapist, I dream of owning horses, I dream of owning my own land, I dream of getting over all the hurt that has been done to me, and I dream of fitting in with a family. 

All of these things are what I want and who knows if they will come true. A successful EAP is not too likely unless the field continues to grown and the economy gets a boost because nobody will be able to afford alternative therapy without money. However, I'm working towards that goal anyway. Why? Not because I can, it would be a lot easier to do something else.

I work towards that particular dream because it's outside my element. I'm a sheltered girl from the suburbs of Chicago who never had the chance to live on a ranch, own horses, live the life I wanted. I'm motivated to do this because I want to change what I've been destined to become. I have two lawyer parents. I'm an excellent debater and I would make a good attorney but I would hate it. I'd hate living in the suburbs. Sometimes the possibility of change is enough to motivate us to work for our dreams.

I also want to find a family. To be clear, I don't want kids. I want to find a group of people in which I belong and I don't feel like a total outsider. I may have found that family in my best friend and her family, so one of my most important dreams may be coming true, but I was motivated to be open to new people because I needed a family. I needed a place where I belonged. I needed a place where someone would comfort me when I was down. Sometimes sheer need drives us to our dreams.

Throughout my life I've experienced more than my share of hurt. I'd like to move past that someday and right now that doesn't seem like something that's going to happen. It looks like something that could happen way in the future when they develop hover cars and new energy sources. However, I'm not doing nothing. I go to therapy twice a week every week to work towards getting healthy and overcoming what has happened to me. In this case I think my motivation was that I couldn't take the pain of living without help anymore.

There are SO many different motivators that drive us to go after our dreams because we all have so many different dreams. We all have a different story and that story helps determine what will motivate us. Everybody's different.